Sunday, November 18, 2007

Piss and moan

Warning: I needed to write this blog. I would appreciate it if you did read it, cause I just really needed to write it.

Life just took the wind out of my sails...again... and as usual, it comes just in time for the holidays. I was told last week that my office will most likely be doing layoffs that will start in January and hopefully end in April. Merry Christmas!

I have to stop right here and say this is not something I feel is personal. I love both my job and my boss. It is the result of a typical scenario for small business. Times get tough, you do what you have to survive - no blame to be had there.

No, this blog is more of an SB piss and moan session. Since I am a single mom I can't piss and moan and look to support from the hubby. I certainly can't with the kids - I need to keep them feeling as secure as possible. I also can't piss and moan to the family. My folks lost their son this year and the holidays are tough enough without my issues piled on top.

I certainly can't piss and moan to the friends; they have been rock solid in the last few years as I went through abuse, divorce, foreclosure, death, drunk drivers and a few other things I can't even talk about. No they have had enough.

What I really want to say is "enough is enough." We were barely hanging in there as it was and now this. I know it's not cancer or nuclear war. I just hate always having to compare what is going on in my life with the worst case scenario (see my blog The good the bad and the unthinkable)


I just want a breather.

I never was the type to ask for big cars, fancy vacations and insane riches. I would, however, like my boys to have a future that is not just debt. I would like to give them some hope for higher education. God, I would like to dream again.

Dreams. I have a friend who I adore tell me that she stopped dreaming a long time ago because she was so tired of being hurt and disappointed. I remember feeling sad for her at the time, but I'm starting to understand it now.

If anyone is reading this blog, tell me what you do to get through it when the rain never lets up; when you just can't breathe. I would love some advice.

4 comments:

  1. Leash up the Great Hound and go for a long walk, then come home and cuddle with him and thank the gods again for him. At work I look at the Hound Art I've saved - it makes the day a little brighter. And sometimes, I just indulge in my misery and then let it go, but that's probably easier when you don't have children.

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  2. I walk away from everything. I go kickboxing, then for a walk in the sun. I lie on the couch and cuddle my BF/dog while reading a trashy romance. Then I lie in the dark and just think about nothing for a bit.

    It doesn't achieve much but it gives me enough of a break that I can attack the problems with a fresh head.

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  3. suez- you can come to us!!!!! please, actually, come to us. you and my mom have been friends for such a long time and we will try to help in whatever way possible. give my mom a call or lets get together and do something. you know, i'm at school and i'm about to cry because of this. especially this part:

    I never was the type to ask for big cars, fancy vacations and insane riches. I would, however, like my boys to have a future that is not just debt. I would like to give them some hope for higher education. God, I would like to dream again.

    the part where you said that you want to have your boys grow up and have a future without debt. i don't know. i just came to tell you that you shouldn't be afraid to piss and moan to us. now i'm getting all emotional and stuff. anyway, i got to go to lunch. just remember, you can give us a call any time.

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  4. Dear Sammi, thanks for your beautiful words. Just oyur caring means the world to me. Much, much love, Sues

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